GAY IS OK

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Myth buster:

Gay people are as varied in appearance and behaviour as heterosexual people. Their beliefs and values have as broad a range as you can imagine. Although stereotypes might have originally been based on genuine observations, they tends to be based around the most visible element of a minority group. It’s human nature to want to label things so that we can make sense of the world. Putting all gay people in a box and assuming they all behave in a certain way makes it easier to deal with the unknown. SO YOU CAN BE GAY AND ACT COMPLETELY STRAIGHT ACTING

I’ve worked with straight people in the past who were very surprised that I seemed so ‘normal’ and not like what they had expected of a gay man. You might hold stereotypes in your mind of minority groups, but try to be open minded and see the broader picture. Sexuality should be a way of assuming how someone behaves or what motivates them. Remember too that if a person does exhibit stereotypical traits, such qualities are not necessarily negative.  READ MORE AT THIS LINK

http://www.bgiok.org.uk/being_gay/myths.html

Is homosexuality a choice? Can it be changed?

Sexual orientation is not a choice. I didn’t choose to be gay. I’ve never met anyone who claims to have done so. Indeed, I remember being bullied in school for being gay before I knew I was! People knew I was different because that's just the way I was built. For everyone, puberty kicks in and you find yourself being sexually attracted to other people, and there's not a thing you can do about it. You can't hurry, control or direct those feelings.

Since I started this website I’ve read hundreds of emails from young people who’d give anything to be straight. Not because they think that being gay is wrong, but because they think being straight is the only way to be accepted by God and their peers. They would love to have a choice in their sexuality but nobody does.
Would it make sense, in a world that can be so hostile toward gay and bisexual people, for anyone to choose to be anything but heterosexual?

Some conservative denominations believe that a gay person can be 'cured' of homosexuality and become heterosexual. This is supposedly achieved through prayer - God can change you if you ask him sincerely - or reparative or conversion therapy. This is based on the idea that since homosexuality is chosen or caused by poor upbringing, that it can be treated, like any other psychological problem. Such treatments, and their effectiveness, haven't been fully studied, and many feel that they can be dangerous to a person's mental health, causing depression, low self-esteem, subsequent substance abuse, and even suicidal urges. These treatments are unproven and experimental. The majority of those who undergo them experience failure in their ability to change their sexuality and either feel worse about their situation or move on to accept themselves as they are.

Most mental health professionals believe that homosexuality is a naturally occurring type of sexual orientation and cannot be altered through therapy or by other means. I think that being encouraged to attempt to change a fundamental and normal part of your being, and being told that becoming heterosexual is the only way to be accepted by God, is sinister and deeply dangerous to a person's mental health.

Science suggests that homosexuality is genetic. In other words, you are born gay, just like you are born with a certain eye colour. Whatever weird and wonderful stuff creates a straight, gay or bisexual person, happens in the womb.

I think that the only way to be truly happy is to embrace who you are. The closer you come to liking yourself and everything that you are, the happier, healthier and more fulfilled you'll become. You'll also be able to accept and enjoy the love of others if you accept yourself. The alternative to self-acceptance is not a cure, but a path of denial and repression, or worse.  FROM

http://www.bgiok.org.uk/being_gay/religion.html